How’s Your Love Life?

The bible tells us that “we love because he first loved us.” While it is common to summarize the Old Testament as presenting a God of judgment and the New Testament as a God of love, such a characterization is not rooted in the facts. We see tremendous instances of God’s love in the Old Testament. (Have you read Zephaniah 3:17 lately? – “The LORD your God is with you, he is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you, he will quiet you with his love, he will rejoice over you with singing.”) We also see many words about judgment in the New. In both testaments, love is the root of God’s action.

We see the two, love and judgment, come together in various places. One in particular stands out. Romans 5:8 says, “God demonstrates his love toward us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Judgment says we’re sinners (a couple of verses later it uses a stronger word – “enemies of God.”). Love makes a judgment that the judgment of sinner is not the final word.

Ok, so God loves us. Or we might put it in some other words of John. It’s not just that God loves us, but that God is love. That starting point of our love lives is knowing this love of God.

Knowing” is an interesting word, isn’t it. We go to school so we can know more. While knowing – having an intellectual grasp or understanding of – God’s love is a good thing, the more important kind of knowing is experiential. When I was a child I experienced my parents’ love before I even knew the word, much less understood the concept.

So let’s ask this, have you experienced God’s love? Let me refine that a bit more. Have you experienced God’s love as God’s love, in a way that you could say, “Yes, I have experienced God’s love, and here is an instance of such an experience.”

The more we come to know God’s love the more clearly we see the truth about ourselves (sinful, broken, lost, needy) and how that truth about ourselves, because of Jesus, is not the final truth about us. The love of God expressed in the life, death and resurrection of Jesus relativizes those truths about us, those words of judgment.

Have you received that gift of love? That’s what makes or breaks your love life.

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Wanting It

Dan Dick has another good post at United Methodeviations. Talking about growing a church, he observes that mainline churches tend to go after the same group of people over and over again. We have trouble moving beyond the middle class folks just like us. He identifies other populations we should consider if we really want to grow our churches.

The first group, those of lower income and tending to have less in the way of formal education, are the primary group of non-church folk we have around here. We do a really poor job reaching them. Dick observes that churches in general are sometimes willing to do ministry to them, but since they have little to offer (think here of “money to support our ever more strained budgets”), we rarely want them to join us.

The folks I know in this group are often genuinely interested in Jesus. But the church – at least as we currently do it – is culturally distant from them. They feel like they don’t fit in. I think most of our folk would be happy to have them here, but I don’t think we’re willing to make many changes to accommodate them.

One tactic we keep talking about is what is popularly called “contemporary style worship.” In conversation with Dave Herman last week, we observed that neither of us had experienced much in the way of United Methodist “contemporary worship” that felt more recent (culturally speaking) than the 1970s. I suppose this is to be expected, since most of us in leadership have been so immersed in church culture for so long that we’re not open to any other ways of doing things.

But I find it curious for a couple of reasons. On the one hand, in our church, and in many others, there is at least an undercurrent of resistance to “contemporary worship.” One of the complaints I’ve heard is a fear that it will steal folks away from the already existing services. Yet on the other hand, we design our new services to so they’ll be attractive to the people we already have. Do you see the irony here?

My idea is to design a worship service that our current people don’t like, yet is culturally relevant to the people who are not now here. After all, we’ve already reached the people who are here (except maybe the younger generation who come as captives of their parents, who will leave us as soon as they can – but they don’t get a say in what we do anyway). If we do something our current folks like, we’re missing the boat.

So how do we do this? I think that designing a worship service for outsiders will require that the design team be dominated by those living on (or very close to) the borders, folks who are following Jesus, but not at the center of church life, folks who still have at least one foot in the world. These folks will have significant relationships with outsiders (unlike most of the rest of us) and have Jesus working through them to draw people in.

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Some Thoughts on Health Care “reform”

  1. We want (a) excellent, high quality health care, (b) in a timely manner, (c) available to all,  (d) at a low cost. Each group seems to major on one point while assuming the others. I don’t see how all four of those can happen at the same time.
  2. Some people have the resources to fund their own health care and some don’t.
  3. Some people have health care covered by insurance while some don’t.
  4. Some have insurance paid for by employers, some pay themselves, some through government programs.
  5. It is a good thing for people to work hard and provide for themselves and their families. Some DON’T do this, and others CAN’T do this.
  6. Compassion for others is a virtue in Christian thought. I’m surprised the Nietzscheans and Malthusians haven’t attacked this as a church/state issue, given their preferences for getting rid of the weak for the sake of the strong or the good of the whole.
  7. Many people do not like to be coerced to be compassionate.
  8. I don’t think I’m the only one who complains that his insurance costs more every year, while at the same time it pays less.
  9. Our current system SEEMS heavy on lawyers, accountants and bureaucrats.
  10. A fair percentage of Americans lack the desire or will to live healthfully.
  11. It is often a good thing to allow people to make decisions about their own lives – even if the decisions they make are stupid or unwise. At the same time we want to protect the people we love from the consequences of their bad decisions.
  12. When I take responsibility for someone else in some way, I usually gain at least some say over what they do in that area. If “we the people” (i.e., the Federal Government) take responsibility for the health care of everyone, we (the Government) will get a say over what others do and or receive when it comes to health care. We tend to be ok with that to the degree we are the ones having the control rather than the ones being controlled. We also tend to be ok with it the more we trust those who have control.
  13. Commanding (or legislating) trust is not the same thing as gaining trust. In fact, commanding trust may be antithetical to gaining trust.
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Public School & Public Health Care

My brother asks (well, actually he’s passing on Rachel’s question), “Why are people so in favor of public education yet opposed to public health care?” Here are my comments.

To the degree that this is the case, I think it’s largely because “public” does not mean the same thing as “public.”

With “public” education there is still a large, though continually decreasing (and often, therefore, bemoaned) degree of local control. My trust of “public” education is partially dependent on my personal relationships with teachers, administrators, and school board people.

Most models of “public” health care seem to imply control from the top down, the top in this case, being federal bureaucrats in DC. Will I ever be in a place where I will be anything more than a client seeking patronage from experts or my social betters?

But then I might be atypical. I am not an unqualified fan of “public” education. I do what I can to support it and make it better. My wife and I have both volunteered in the schools for years. But we’re also firm believers that one size/option doesn’t fit all. For most families today it is a great sacrifice to choose anything other than public education for their children.

In general, my main negative perception of public education is that they aim too low. “Let’s get the kids to pass the TAKS test.” Sure – but that’s a MINIMUM standard, not a maximum.

In the same way, some might fear that by make health care entirely public (and I think once a significant portion of health care goes public, the cost differential will crowd out non-public – i.e., non-governmental [which is NOT the only meaning of public, though it has been pretty much reduced to that of late] – health care even more than public schooling crowds out other options), the minimum standards will be adopted. Anything more is too expensive, after all.

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Perfection

I’m a perfectionist. But I’m not a perfectionist in every area. I’m also not a perfectionist with everyone. I insist on perfection from myself much more often (or so I think – if you know better, let me know) than from other people. Perfectionism has it’s advantages. When we aim to be perfect, the effects we seek to bring about might be more likely – we get better results. But not always.

Sometimes I need to take up the attitude Dave Browning describes in Deliberate Simplicity: How the Church Does More by Doing Less.  Browning speaks of “excellence” instead of perfection. In his life in ministry he has seen an emphasis on excellence work to exclude people from ministry. He choose instead to push a sense of “good enough.” I like the idea of good enough. “Good enough” leaves room for grace. It allows more people to step up and try something.

The “Good enough” principles fits with the idea that “if something is worth doing, it’s worth doing poorly” (Chesterton?). More often we hear the opposite – “If something is worth doing, it’s worth doing well.”

Actually, I think both principles are true. First, if we never try something for the first time – and quite often when we first try something we’re rather poor at it – then are guaranteed to never be good at it. Second, if something is worth doing, if it is an act that truly produces good and blessing for people, then that act is not only worth doing, but it’s worth doing in a way that maximizes the goodness. Sometimes the “doing poorly” will happen in a context that allows for preparation for a different setting where excellence matters more.

As a preacher, I want my speaking to accomplish something in the lives of my hearers. I cannot be lackadaisical  about my preparation, therefore. I need to put all my effort into doing the best that I can. But I don’t come anywhere near perfection (by my own standards, at least). I’ve noticed over the years, though, that God chooses to work through me in spite of my failure to reach my own standards. I’d guess that the more imperfect I am – and the wider the audience that recognizes my imperfection – the more necessity I have for God to step in. That’s why I want to be sort of perfection-adverse. I don’t want to get to the place where I perceive myself to no longer need God. I also don’t think God wants me to get to the place where I do nothing.

So with Browning, I want to lift up the idea of “good enough.” I want to extend grace to people to try new things, to reach out in new forms of ministry. But I also want them to take the ministry seriously enough that they pour their best into, while they trust God to fill in the necessarily remaining gaps.

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Clunkers

My cars don’t quite count as clunkers. Sure, all of them have over 100k miles. Sure, the newest of them is a 2000. Sure, the car I drive doesn’t get great mileage. But none of them are listed as clunkers. But what if one was a clunker?

The ideas behind the “Cash for Clunkers” program include (a) stimulating economic activity (and the auto industry in particular) and (b) getting more fuel efficient cars on the road. Those are good ideas. But are they enough?

If my car were on the clunker list, then I could get up to $4500 for it. Then if I wanted a new car that cost $20,000 it would only cost me an additional $15,500.  The new car would get better gas mileage, so I would save some money that way, too. Let’s suppose my current car averages 19 mpg (if it were less, it would count as a clunker) and I “trade” it for a car that averages 35mpg, and gas averaged $4 a gallon, and I drove 20,000 miles a year, I would save just over $1900 dollars a year. Saving that much sounds like a good idea to me.

But if saving money is my goal, then I would save even more by not trading my car. It still has some life left in it – probably a few years. Each year I don’t buy a new car, I save more money. Sure, I spend more on gas than I would like, but since I’m not making a car payment, I can afford it.

I’m blessed with a job. I have a regular pay check. If I had to make a car payment, I could. But can all the folks taking advantage of “Cash for Clunkers” afford a new car – even if their clunker counts as a nice down payment? If the economy rebounds, and they can keep their jobs (or get jobs) and make the payments.

But I have a recollection that one of the major things that got us into this mess was our propensity to spend beyond our means. The economy needs us to spend more – for consumption to rise. But consumption will not reward us for long. The economy is not a very benevolent god for the long term.

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Driven

I’m reading, Dave Browning’s Deliberate Simplicity: How the Church Does More by Doing Less, one of the books I was given for my birthday. I’m only in the second chapter, so this post will be far short of a full review, but rather more of an initial thought.

I’m ambivalent about simplicity. On the plus side, my animosity toward a Weberian routinization of charisma, leads me to think we over do the program and activity side of church. We think, “If we build it, they will come,” or “If we program it, they will show up,” both predicated on the assumption that “If they come, they will become disciples.” I’ve seen lots of activity that was only activity. Simplicity can be part of the antidote to that way of thinking.

On the other hand, my personality type sees complexity everywhere. Browning simplifies his church doctrine to four points:

  1. God and his word are trustworthy.
  2. Christ is the Savior and King.
  3. There is hope for the future and forgiveness for the past.
  4. The church holds the hope of the  world in its hands.

If your objective is simplicity, and you’re starting with a blank slate,  I suppose these are ok. But why these? Christian doctrine is rooted in history. It’s not just that it happened at particular times in history, but that the doctrines arose as they did because of particular questions and needs arising in particular cultural and historical settings. While it might be the case that these four “simple” doctrines might be a response to the questions of our age, our age flows from what has gone before. The new “simple” church has not appeared form nowhere.

How well does doctrinal simplicity work? Well, if these four statements are all we have, we haven’t said anything about Jesus. Oh, we’ve said that “Christ is Savior and King,” but what doctrine do we have that connects “Jesus” with “Christ?” Our age certainly doesn’t assume that. Plenty of folks today are happy to say that Jesus is A Christ, not the Christ. Maybe the connection comes from doctrine number 1 –  “God and his word are trustworthy” – and since we see an equation between Jesus and Christ in the bible, we don’t need to worry about finding it elsewhere. But how do we make the connection between “his word” and the bible? Do we have a doctrine somewhere that identifies “word of God” with the bible? Do we have one that limits it to the bible? Why or why not?

Don’t get me wrong. I understand the desire for doctrinal simplicity. I think if you want doctrinal simplicity Islam is probably the way to go. They have a simple confession, “There is no God but God and Mohammad is his prophet.” You confess that, you’re a Muslim. What could be simpler? No Trinity. No resurrection of Jesus. No complicated relationships between faith & history. They have a simple theory of scripture. The Quran is an exact dictation of what God has said eternally in heaven. The believer’s job is to submit. What could be simpler?

We could also come at this from the back side. In the second chapter Browning references Rick Warren’s theories about church “drivenness.” He (and Browning agrees) says that all churches are driven by something. It could be tradition, personality, program, finances, buildings, events, seekers, or purpose. I bet you know Warren’s pick. I understand that. I even sympathize with it. But again, complexifier that I am, I don’t think it’s so simple.

They suggest that a church driven by tradition is one that majors on “doing what we’ve always done.” I understand the critique here. I’ve seen too many churches that are driven (if we can dignify their institutional conservatism with the term “tradition”) into the organizational hospice by doing what they’ve always done. But what if there’s more to tradition than “doing what we’ve always done?” If you read my book, you know that I’m convinced that God calls us to be willing participants in his ongoing action in history. Through Jesus, we’re part of the same story we read in scripture. We were called to be part of this story a thousand (hundred, fifty – put in a number of your choosing) years ago. Now since this is a story, a drama, the appropriate action on our part might differ from year to year or setting to setting. But as part of the same story, there are clear limits on what can do that will make sense, i.e., constitute a faithful performance of the story.

Or perhaps we can pick on the driven metaphor a bit. What kinds of things are driven? I drive a car. I can drive a lawnmower. I can (in theory) drive a golf ball. The first of these depend on a mechanical metaphor. Mechanical things are driven. All depict what is driven as inanimate objects. Is the church an inanimate object? Is it merely a machine? Or is it just a human institution? If we were Weberians (or Lockeans) we’d say, Sure! It’s just another voluntary association, trying to routinize the charisma in our founders (Jesus, for the primary tradition, folks like Luther, Wesley, Calvin, Wimber, for subsidiary traditions). But if we’re neither Weberians nor Lockeans (or other variants of good moderns), maybe the driven metaphor and its dependence on  non-animated-ness falls apart. At best, it seems, we could talk about being Spirit driven. That doesn’t do the work that Purpose (or simple, or program, etc) do though, because the Spirit isn’t reducible to a formula or simple statement.

So how do we decide what to do? That can be described fairly simply: We walk in the Spirit, in a constant relationship of dependence on God, listening and paying attention so that we know what our role is in God’s ongoing story. Pretty simple, isn’t it? Listen, pay attention, obey. What could be simpler? But then maybe these simple things aren’t so simple. Sometimes our appropriate action will be to do something we’ve always done (like, Pray, Worship, Witness, etc.). Sometimes we’ll be doing one of these things in the same way we’ve always done it. Other times we’ll have to step out in faith and do them in some new way, perhaps even a way that challenges us and leaves us crying to God for help.

So Deliberate Simplicity? Again, I like the basic idea, but it depends on what we mean by that and what it entails. We’ll see.

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Camp Report

We arrived home from church camp yesterday afternoon. Some reflections:

  • Working camp is hard work. It’s terribly hot. You work long hours -“lights out” (which doesn’t mean the kids fall asleep then) tends to be around midnight, with breakfast at 8am you have to get up early to get kids moving. Many of the kids are really needy (more about that below). Your job is to keep order and help thing flow along, while many of the kids would be happy to just do their own thing. I do it because the kids are worth investing in. God gives us a chance to be part of his effort to bring them salvation, so we take them up on the offer. And that’s just the counselors. the camp leaders and staff do even more.
  • The food at Lakeview was much better than the past few times I’ve been there (whether for pastor’s retreats or for summer camp). Sometimes in recent years it had been almost inedible. While they’ve mostly to pre-processed foods over the years, at least it tasted ok most of the time. No fried macaroni and cheese this year!
  • The content of summer camp is a vast improvement over when I was a camper (thirty years ago). There is much more explicitly Christian content now. While Dr. Seuss & Peanuts provide useful illustrative material, they do not provide the substance of the faith.
  • We have (though not universally) moved closer to the realization that not everyone who comes to camp is already a Christian. Camp can be a great place to make a first-time commitment to Christ – if you hear that doing so is possible. I’ve joked for years that the United Methodist mistake is to act like everyone is already saved, while the typical baptist mistake is to act like no one is. If we follow Wesley we get both evangelism and discipleship.
  • My daughter said she really liked the speakers in her camp who shared from their own life experiences. Rev. Heidi Cain was her favorite. She admits that my life experiences are too boring and ordinary for me to have any hope, though.
  • The Senior High camp leadership was very different than it has been in the past. Previously, pastors had served as coordinators. This year continued the trend of youth directors taking the lead. I think we’re wise to allow professionals in this area of specialization to take the lead. If we’re going to encourage specialized training, we might as well trust them to use it.
  • Our main speaker for the week (Senior High again) was Scott Lathem, a UM pastor from Lubbock (NW Texas conference). An ordained Elder, he is also a trained counselor. The theme for the week was “Faith Forming Relationships,” though the actual content seemed like it might better be described as “Faith Formed Relationships.” Scott spoke from scripture and from his life experiences (much more interesting than most of mine). As a brief example, while speaking from Mark 2 on friendship, he taught that the youth needed four types of friends. They needed a Nathan to challenge them and hold them accountable, a Jonathan to help them “grow strong in God,” a Nehemiah to pick up the broken pieces and rebuild the walls, and an Elijah to mentor us (as he did Elisha). He mentioned four types, since the image he used of the cripple being carried on his mat by four friends. If we were allowed a fifth, I’d pick one from a text we’d looked at earlier in the day – Ruth. We need friends like Ruth who will stand by us even when we’re depressed, dejected, and try to push them away.
  • Family relationships came up a lot in our camp (given the topic, not a surprise). Many of the kids are not living in intact families of origin. Many are alienated – emotionally, physically – from their parents. Some lack a stable home life or even a real place to live. Another counselor and I were talking about this at one point. She observed that most of the kids in her youth group were from intact families. I commented that this could be because their church or community was doing a really good job at helping families. Or it could be a sign that the church isn’t doing a great job at reaching the hurting broken families out there.
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(Not so) Simple Church

I read Thom Rainer’s Simple Church a few months ago. I liked his proposal of having a clear, simple model of making disciples that was shared by the whole congregation (“congregation” is that a Baptist like Rainer means by “church”) so that everything it does is aligned with that model. Compared to the way disciples are accidentally made in so many traditional churches, I found the idea of a simple process attractive.

But I couldn’t quite bring myself to believe it.

First, the sub-title of the book claims too much – “Returning to  God’s Process for Making Disciples.” When I read the book, I found a very modern, rationalized, linear model for making disciples – a veritable disciple-making factory. When I look at the way Jesus made disciples in the Gospels – and if I want to discover God’s way, who else ought I to consult? – I don’t see anything as neat and simply reproducible as what I see Rainer proposing. Jesus approached each of his disciples differently. He didn’t run them through a program – even a simple one. He took them with him so they could see what he did and learn to trust him and his way of life.

Second, while I understand the attraction of a simple, linear process, I’ve seen too many who have become disciples by other means. One of the images I use when I talk about the life of discipleship is crossing three lines. As disciples of Jesus we cross a line of commitment to Jesus, a line of commitment to our own spiritual growth (that is, we aren’t just babies waiting for someone to take care of us), and a line of responsibility for the spiritual growth of others. It makes perfect sense to imagine that a disciple would progress in exactly that order. It’s an order commonly adopted in churches – we can see it in the Saddleback baseball diamond with its CLASS system.

But things don’t always work that way. I’ve seen people drawn to faith by starting at the “end” – by joining in ministry toward others. If we ask them why, chances are they won’t say, “This is a natural fulfillment of my love for Jesus.” Rather, they might just say, “I see the need, I have the ability to do something to meet it, so I do it.” While a few might have the thought of earning favor with God through their actions, there is no necessary reason to suppose such a thought.

Todd Hunter argues this same point in Christianity Beyond Belief: Following Jesus for the Sake of Others.  He says,

We are accustomed to seekers following this model: first they believe Christian truth,then they join our churches, and then they take on our practices and behaviors. I suspect, though, that upon reflection we may see that people have come to faith in more varied ways. Today many people are starting at the ‘end’ and practicing their way into the faith. It seems to be working just fine. Others start in the middle by joining a Christian community before they believe.

What happens when we insist on a particular assembly line method of making disciples? At the best, we’ll make some disciples – which is far better than simply limping along making none. But we’ll also miss many people. I think we’ll also miss God, since God appears to lead people to Jesus by multiple means.

So where can we have simplicity? Where can we have a clearly shared model of disciple-making with which we align all our ministries? Put briefly, I think we need to have three elements present at every stage, even if one is in the forefront. We need people to keep in view that Jesus is the center of all we do. We need people to keep in view that Jesus joins us together for his purposes. And we need people to keep in view that his purposes are not merely for our sake, but for the sake of the world.

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A Couple Random Thoughts

Facebook keeps asking me if I want to be a “fan of God.” If by “fan of God” it means “love God,” then I suppose being a “fan of God” is natural for a Christian. But put into a context of being a “fan” of just about everything, being a “fan of God” seems to trivialize God. Are any of you Facebook “fans of God?” What do you think about it?

With the advent of Johnny Depp’s new role as John Dillinger, he’s thinking about the role of Dillinger. A couple of weeks ago I read that Depp said something about maybe people need to stand up to authority today like Dillinger did in his day. I understand that there is a certain class of people who think standing up to authority is the thing to do. That class of people seems to be more often of Democratic than Republican persuasion. That’s why it amazes me that Depp would look at Dillinger standing up against authority (FDR’s administration) and suggest that people need to stand up similarly today (when again the Democrats rule both Congress and the Executive branch). Does that strike anyone else as odd?

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