When you’re a kid, Mom & Dad make decisions for you. They usually do ok.
When you’re a teenager, Mom & Dad make too many decisions for you. They’re usually wrong. If you could make your own decisions you’d do it right.
When you become an adult you get to make your own decisions. At that point you may learn the reality that very few (if any) occasions for decision making come with all the information you need or want. You even discover, to your horror, perhaps, that you don’t even know what you want.
But you have to decide anyway.
If that’s the way it is, what can we do about it? Here are a few thoughts.
- Pray. Not just about the decisions in life, but as a general practice. If you have a habit of listening and talking to God both good and bad decisions are likely to go better.
- Once you’ve made the decision move on. Don’t linger. Don’t wallow in What If.
- If you think you made a bad decision, identify what you can learn from it. Then move on.
- Talk to people you respect (this might include parents, friends, experts). You can’t give away your responsibility for decision making, but you may gain some wisdom. It’s often cheaper to learn from other people’s experience if you can.