People like to hear stories of success and happiness. Iâ€™m ok, youâ€™re ok. Thatâ€™s part of the genius behind movements as diverse as the Chicken Soup series and Guideposts.
I was talking to a pastor friend tonight whose Annual Conference has just begun. Once again they announced that membership of the conference is up. They take great pride in the fact that almost alone in United Methodism, theyâ€™ve been growing for over 20 consecutive years.
Except itâ€™s not a fact.
Sure the statistical reports speak of growth. But the growth isnâ€™t real.
My friend told me of a fellow pastor who moved to a new congregation and found hundreds of numbers on the roll that he couldnâ€™t even match with names. The logical (and Disciplinary) thing to do would be to correct the role via charge conference action. But his DS disallowed it. â€œWe donâ€™t do things like that in our conference. Thatâ€™s too negative. We grow here.â€ [Paraphrase of a paraphrase, but the general idea]
So conference-wide growth isnâ€™t real, but at least itâ€™s inspirational. But maybe not. My friend says everyone knows the growth numbers are fictional. This growth regime is what John Kotter calls â€œhappy talk,â€ a mechanism to derail and prevent change. We donâ€™t need to change, after all, if weâ€™re already doing a great job!
I think weâ€™re better off engaging Creative Tension (Bill Fritz wrote the book on this). Set a goal â€“ in this case a conference growing in membership. Then tell the truth about the distance from that goal. Let the distance you have to cover create tension that impels you forward. Truth inspires better than fiction. Fiction lulls us to sleep. We might feel good about ourselves, but that is the way of death.