A too familiar picture

Have you seen a church that looks like this?

Age Distribution

Do you notice the imbalance between the left and right sides of the graph? Relative to our community, we’re doing well reaching the older generation. At the same time, we’re doing poorly, again relative to their number in our community, at reaching people under 45. Considering how our children and youth were counter – and the progress we’ve made since last spring when this data was collected – I think we’re a bit better at the extreme left side now. When we had our Children’s Sabbath in October we counted up all the children and youth connected with the church and came to around 100.

Our biggest weakness now seems to be in reaching – and keeping – people aged 20 through 44. I don’t think we can make progress on this by just doing more of the same. Here are some basics.

1. Stop blaming them for not coming, for not being drawn by the same things that drew the folks that are already here.

2. Talk to them. When we talk to them and become friends with them, they become more than a demographic segment.

3. Love them unconditionally.

4. Go where they are. Once upon a time “If you build it, they will come” might have worked for churches. I don’t see the edifice  or program strategy working well lately.

5. Pray. We need God to work on our hearts and shape our lives in such a way that people will be attracted to Jesus.

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A Simple funny

Here’s a humorous statement from Simple Church:

Saddleback, led by Rick Warren, was the first church to launch forty-day spiritual growth campaigns.

Anyone ever heard of Lent? It may be that Saddleback’s campaigns are more routinized than how many churches have done Lent, but the 40 day spiritual focus is nothing new.

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Single Entry Churches?

Thom Rainer’s Simple Church is on our district pastor’s reading list. I understand and sympathize with the basic notion of the book. We’re pretty good at doing what we’ve always done. But Are lives being changed? Are people becoming followers of Jesus? Too often it seems we’re just keeping them busy.

If you pick up the book, you’ll find it an easy read. It’s highly repetitious and wordy. The main idea is to identify a clear and simple process for making disciples in your church. I get that. I think that’s a good idea. It’s an improvement over the age-old notion that if we build it (i.e., a stack of church programs and activities out the wazoo), they will come (i.e., become disciples). Unfortunately, I have never noticed a direct correlation between just keeping people busy at church and actually making disciples.

At the same time, I cringe as I read the book. It reads like a late-modernist manual. Ecclesiologically, it views the church as a disciple producing machine. Lost people are the raw material, the church and its programs are the processes that transform this raw material into disciples.

I’m in the middle of the book now where the authors tell us to “Designate a clear entry-point to your process.” They say:

The entry point is the program through which people are most likely to enter your church. It is the weekly program that guests are most likely to attend. It is the program you encourage your people to invite friends to attend.

In our small community we have more multiplex relationships with people than is common in an urban or suburban setting. I see my neighbor not only down the street but in stores and and his place of work. We have multiple relationships with each other. Within this network of relationships, it is common for several church people to be in relationship together (in a variety of ways) with several outsiders. Inviting them to come to Sunday morning worship (our event most approximating what Rainer is talking about) may be the most natural. But then it might be more natural for a couple of families in a Sunday School class to invite a family from their neighborhood to a fellowship event. Or for someone to invite a co-worker to join her in a weekend service project. Different people are reached in different ways.

It would seem natural that we would aim for folks to be involved in all three types of setting – Corporate worship, small group (face to face relationships), and outreach. But I’ve seen  people start their walk with Jesus at any of these.

My presupposition is also that the church is better understood as organic, not mechanical. The church is people bound together by the Holy Spirit. While this body has institutional expression, it is not just an institution.

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Is Discipline the Answer?

Discipline is a good Methodist word. Sure, it’s mostly been reduced the name of a book, but we still value the idea. Our Methodist relationship with discipline mirrors what I see in our broader society. We think discipline is good, needed, but mostly for other people.

In a recent essay, Asia Times columnist Spengler wrote about contrasting attitudes toward the study of music in China and the US. The key difference is discipline. A much higher percentage of Chinese students and their parents are willing to discipline themselves in such a way as to produce excellence in classical music. Spengler argues that these habits of discipline bleed over into other areas of life, benefiting even those who don’t make a career of music.

This past summer we heard of discipline in another context. We bask in the excitement of Michael Phelps multiple swimming victories. When we hear of the regimen that got him there, we stop short. Such discipline obviously has good results, but it’s too much for ordinary people like us.

I learned American football when I moved back to the States from Korea in 5th grade. Since we lived in Maryland, I learned to cheer for the Redskins. After thirty years in Texas, I’m at the point now where it’s ok for the Cowboys to win. Since the daily paper I read comes out of Dallas, I see plenty of Cowboy news and commentary. Lately many comments have been made about the head coach’s style. He’s a nice guy, not one of those harsh disciplinarians who yells at his players. Those ‘Boys need more discipline if they’re going to make the playoffs! They need someone who will whip them into shape.

Our sports teams are flabby, too few pursue music since it entails work. Our economic leaders pursue riches at the cost of the nation’s economy as a whole, but then find themselves taken in a 50 billion dollar Ponzi scheme. Our government leaders, whether at the state or national level can’t do much about it: they seem either overly concerned with endless re-elections or finding ways to skim money off the top. In the meantime our schools are failing, our infrastructure is decaying, and our medical system is overpriced and its professionals demoralized. We see a need on all levels for discipline.

But where will the hunger for discipline take us? Will we flabby, lazy folks look for the military to take over? They surely seem competent and disciplined. Some see the combination of a society-wide abdication of discipline and a hunger for the fruits of discipline leading in that direction.

Is Discipline Christian? Surely one can find scriptural support for the need to focus and work hard at something. I’d suggest, however, (and this suggestion is by no means original), that discipline is more at the core of Stoicism than to Christianity. I’m still digesting Charles Taylor’s argument in A Secular Age, but one of the key forces that led to what we today call secularism was a revival of Stoicism, particularly with its emphasis on discipline. The atomism of Epicureanism, combined with the disciplinary impetus of Stoicism helped push our modern technological revolution, but perhaps other elements of Epicureanism, though not directly in Epicurus himself, have worked, over the centuries to soften us.

Americans are hungering for salvation. The salvation they are hungering for is primarily economic and political today. Some hope a President Obama will usher in political salvation (while others lament that a President McCain won’t have the chance to save us). Some hope in government experts stepping in and fixing the broken economy – since the market has obviously failed.

I’m not looking for a revived Stoicism to save us – whether flavored by sporting or military culture. Discipline is a good thing, but it is not our savior. Jesus is our savior. When we take up the ways of Jesus, we find our lives motivated by love. This love will often lead to discipline, but will never be displaced by it. Moved by love,  we will find deliverance from the atomism that says, “It’s all about me!” and a materialism that says what I have and control now is what defines my life.

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Christmas Presents

In our culture, the one whose birthday it is gets the presents. This is why most kids look forward to their birthday. It’s a big deal. Christmas is Jesus’ birthday. So who gets the presents? When I was a kid, if you’d have asked me whose birthday it was I probably would have thought about it and eventually told you it was Jesus’. But a fair amount of my Christmas joy came from my experience of Christmas as like another birthday for me. I got the presents. Something for Jesus? It never crossed my mind.

Some people with my history might feel guilty, taking so much joy on receiving presents for someone else’s birthday. Instead of guilt I feel two things. First, I feel gratitude for the greatest gift I ever received. Second, I feel a need to show my gratitude in concrete ways.

My best Christmas present ever was Jesus himself. Just over 2000 years ago God gave his only Son for us. I didn’t deserve the gift, I didn’t do anything to make it happen. It was pure loving grace on God’s part. Jesus was – and is – God’s Christmas present to us. I’m grateful beyond words.

I’d like to show my gratitude. Over the years I’ve thought of a few ways I can do that. Quite likely you’ve found some other ways – if you have, let me know. Here are three of the ways I’ve found to express my gratitude.

  1. Share Jesus with others. If you give me a Gameboy for Christmas, I could play games on it. I could give it to my friend, and then my friend could play games on it. But only one of us can do it at a time. Some things are like that. When you share them or give them away it means you don’t have them any more. It’s not like that with Jesus. When we give Jesus away – when we tell others about Him and the gift of God that He is – we in no way diminish the gift He is to us. In fact, my perception is that the more I share Jesus, the more I experience Jesus myself. Jesus is like love in that way. The more you give love away, the more of it you have. One way – a non-threatening, non-confrontational way – that we can share Jesus this season is to invite people to our Christmas Eve services. If what we Christians believe is true, then it’ll be more than great music, fellowship, and the sharing of the Word. Jesus himself will show up.

  2. Give yourself to Jesus. Christina Rossetti said it well, “What can I give him, poor as I am? If I were a shepherd, I would bring a lamb; if I were a Wise Man, I would do my part; yet what I can I give him: give my heart.” Is there some part of yourself that you’ve never given to Jesus – maybe a part you’re afraid that he wouldn’t like, or a part you want to hold on for yourself? Maybe it’s your future, your past, your possessions, your time that you’ve been holding back. Try asking him. Start simple. If you’ve been holding back many things, try giving him one part of yourself. See what happens.

  3. Give to people in need. Perhaps the Lord has blessed you financially this year. I know he’s blessed our church. Though we have many projects ahead of us, we’ve reached some important goals this year. But if all we do is take care of our own needs, we’re missing Jesus.

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Would He Like Me?

Would Tony Morgan like me?

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What Am I Doing?

Continuing to learn from Hauerwas and Pinches:

One of the difficulties of taking up any significant way of life is that we never entirely understand what we are doing. Commitments are asked of us, but we are in no position to appreciate their significance when we first undertake them. Marriage is a ready example: we never know entirely what we are doing when we enter it. In twenty years, perhaps, we come closer to such an appreciation and can begin to articulate why it was good for us to marry. Ironically, it is then that we can give good reasons for our marriage, ones we could not possibly have understood at the time of our marrying. Indeed, we could not have known then what we were doing.

Being a Christian is not unlike this. If we can recall a time when we became a Christian, most of us will also recall now that we did not then know what we were doing. So it steals over us that our being now Christian is more a matter of fortune than of choice. We may regret or rejoice that we are presently so identified, but there seems little we did to earn the label and, if we have been truly shaped by it, even less we can now do to shed it.

I read this and think of the stories we sometimes tell of our conversions and re-conversions. There are some churches where it is common to get saved every time and evangelist comes to town, or perhaps at regular occasions throughout one’s life. Sometimes this is explained as a recovery from backsliding. Sometimes it is taken as only now getting down to business with God. Although I seemed to be making a profession of faith in the past, I was really playing games with God. Only now do I truly understand and mean what I am doing.

I think Pinches and Hauerwas are right in suspecting that we ever fully understand what we’re doing. My commitment to Christ as a child is not the same as my commitment to Christ as an adult – regardless of what happens in the intervening years. I think it is rarely the case that I only thought I knew what I was doing then – and now I know the real truth.

So what’s the solution? First, we have to realize that when we started on our walk with Christ, our knowledge of what we were doing, though apparent to us at the time, was limited. Second, our knowledge now, x years later, is also limited, though conditioned and informed not only by our current knowledge of Christ and our relationship with him, but also by our knowledge of our knowledge of our relationship with Christ. We have a level of reflection impossible when we were first starting out. My conclusion form this is that we need to hold on to our relationship with Christ humbly – recognizing its partial nature. We’ll never reach the point of completion in our walk with Christ. It’s simply something we keep on doing.

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Happy Christians?

I’m currently reading Christians Among the Virtues by Stanley Hauerwas & Charles Pinches. They say:

“Christians cannot overlook the profound challenge that the gospel is meant to confront, if not destroy: our presumptions about what will make us happy in this life. Christianity does not promise fulfillment but rather offers a way to live in the world truthfully and without illusion. That a people who follow a crucified God can presume life is finally about happiness seems odd at best. Christian convictions are more nearly true, not because they underwrite our assumptions about what constitutes human fulfillment, but because Christianity challenges our facile presumptions that God is primarily concerned with our happiness.”

They are right that it is common to think that happiness is what we humans live for. When my philosophy class gets to the chapter on Aristotle, my students always find it challenging to understand that his notion of the nature of happiness isn’t the same thing as their own modern American notion. It’s not just that different people find happiness in different things – they understand that. They think that Aristotle is saying that people will find happiness (meant the way they as moderns mean it) when they fulfill their function as humans. It’s hard to grasp that he’s not offering a way of happiness (as if everyone knew what counted as happiness), but is offering another definition of it.

While the Christian understanding of happiness is not the same as Aristotle’s, his analysis does provoke us helpfully – as Hauerwas and Pinches demonstrate. Jesus, being crucified, surely looks like the antithesis of anything we would consider happiness (I don’t htink Aristotle would approve either). Yet scripture tells us that “for the joy set before him he endured the cross.” I don’t want to get into the argument about how “joy” and “happiness” are completelydifferent things. Rather, I’d want to say that our propensity to think they are fundamentally different is based on a mistaken notion of happiness. If “happiness” means “I feel good,” then sure, joy is something different. What I’d rather see – and what I think Hauerwas and Pinches are getting at, is that a consideration of Jesus leads us a better understanding of happiness, not rejecting it as a prospect for the Christian.

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Getting What We Wanted?

Some of us have been preaching against consumerism for ages – some vehemently and constantly, some merely occasionally. Looking at the current US economy it appears that maybe someone was listening.

What’s wrong with consumerism?

  • When we’re captivated by consumerism, we think having stuff – and constantly having more stuff will make us happy and give us a good life. As followers of Jesus, we reject the idea that things – whatever they be – can bring us salvation. That’s Jesus’ role in our lives. Consumerism, therefore, is a form of idolatry.
  • Our consumerist lifestyle has been driven by debt. Millions of Americans are drowning in credit card, mortgage and other forms of debt. They have to work longer hours, extra jobs, just to stay even. But staying even isn’t enough. We need more! Sure doesn’t look like the happy life to me.

What’s happening now?

  • People have stopped buying as much. Some have stopped buying because they’ve maxed out their debt – they can’t get any more credit. Some have stopped because they have no cash. Others have stopped because they see a greater need to save for the future given the economic crisis.
  • As the population ages, large numbers of people are deciding to downsize. In terms of housing, they want less house to maintain. In terms of stuff, they’ve have seen that possessions aren’t worth as much as they may have seemed at first.

These conditions combine to lead to a drop in demand. If less stuff is wanted, there is less demand for people to produce that stuff, leading to a decrease in jobs. An end to consumerism doesn’t just mean that people throw away their idols. People involved in the economy of idols lose their jobs. That’s a factor we preachers against consumerism haven’t always taken into account. While consumerism has been idolatrous for many, it has also been a source of livelihood for others.

I think of the problems the early Christians created in Ephesus. As more people became followers of Jesus, they not only rejected the idols they had previously honored, they also stopped buying new ones. Demetrius and his fellow idol-makers felt the pinch. They framed it, however, not as a loss for themselves, but as a lack of respect for the great goddess Diana. If Demetrius had become a Christian, how might he have handled things differently? If he listened carefully to Paul, he probably wouldn’t have continued making statues of Diana, excusing his participation in idolatry with something like, “Personally, I’m against idol worship, but hey! I need to make a living. I need to put food on the table, pay my mortgage, and take care of my kids, don’t I? To me it’s just a hunk of silver. To them, it’s a tool for their religion. Who am I to judge?”

I don’t know what the best answer for Demetrius – or for producers today – if the turn away from consumerism lasts for a substantial amount of time. Here are a few thoughts as I start thinking about it.

  • The economy will re-tool to reflect a changed perception of what people truly need.
  • Perhaps we’ll learn how to shift from a consumption economy based on “gimme, gimme, gimme” to a gift/grace based economy based on, “What do you need? How can I/we bless you?”
  • I’m concerned that the powerful of our society will “hog the lifeboats” and the weak will be left to drown. The powerful are in a place to profit from government bailouts, either in terms of direct funding, indirect siphoning through corruption, or through maintenance of personal freedom while those at the bottom are reduced to serfdom, either of the government or of government-favored corporations.

What do the rest of you see as options?

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Walking Around

One of the books I’m reading on right now is William A. Cohen’s, A Class with Drucker. Here are some good points on “Managing By Walking Around” he shares from Harry K. Jones (interspersed with some of my own comments):

Appear relaxed as you make your rounds. Employees will reflect your feelings and actions.

Leading churches is hard work. While we might have some paid employees, most of the people we work with are volunteers. Especially in today’s economy, there’s a lot of fear and anxiety. While it might be truthful to make lots of worried noises, I’d rather build confidence than reflect fears. Churches have an advantage over businesses since our ultimate confidence is in God, not the economy, not the Fed, not the government. If we trust God and obey God, we’ll be ok – whatever else is happening around us.

Remain open and responsive to questions and concerns.

I think I’m ok at remaining open and responsive, though I’m not always successful at appearing so. Since we’re all in it together, people deserve the respect of being heard.

Observe and listen, and let everyone see you doing it.

People expect leaders to take control. Sure, that happens sometimes. But if that’s all that happens the leadership won’t be happening very long.

Ask for suggestions to improve operations, products, service, sales, etc.

Pastors are the experts. We’ve been to seminary, tons of workshops, have many years of  experience. We know what we’re doing. Sometimes. We often lack necessary information or a relevant point of view. If we ask people who may know what we don’t know, we honor them as co-workers in the mission of God.

 Catch  your employees doing something right and recognize them publicly.

We have so many ways to recognize people – from the pulpit, in newsletters, in group conversations, sending notes, etc. People need encouragement, not only so they’ll have the motivation, but so they’ll know what counts.

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